Great Expectations

So many people have high expectations of others.

Parents expect their children to go to university, children expect their parents to be able to solve any problem, and patients expect their doctor to cure them.

These aren’t bad expectations. We should always hope the best for our children, trust in our parents and expect our doctors to try their best.

But how far should we go?

Some women expect their future partner to come riding in on a white horse, some parents expect their children to get perfect in every test and become high level executives, and some people expect others to be infallible.

Is putting that pressure on other people really a good thing?

Most children will lie to their parents at some stage in their life, and a lot of people will try to make themselves sound more important than they actually are. The reason? There is this emotional need to have people approve of them.

What are your expectations of others? Are they high enough to challenge them or so high that they are unattainable?

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When one Door closes…

A window is opened.

I love the idea that even when you make plans in your life, anything can happen to shake them up.

When I was 17, my plans for my life were big, but not great.

I thought only of what I wanted. What I could get out of life, and what would give me as much as possible with the least effort.

Needless to say, these plans didn’t work out.

But I realized that as long as I was willing to change my thinking, and constantly be aiming towards something great for others, I would have success.

Here’s the amazing thing.

Helping others has actually helped me!
I have goals on my life, I’m putting in effort in helping others, both at work and at church. But this is rewarding me too!

Now I have other plans for my life. But I expect that the unexpected will happen too.

What are your plans leading you to?

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To Boldly Go…

I am not a shy person.

I’ll be the first to go up to people I don’t know and introduce myself. I’m happy to be the first on a dance floor, I’m happy being on stage and I love it when I have to stand up and give a speech.

But being confident in public is natural to me.

But I know that it’s hard to be bold. Because bold for me is different. It’s being confident in doing things that will affect my private life.
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If I saw you in Heaven

 

Knowing that I’m a Christian, many people are curious to know, will they go to Heaven?


The strange thing is, many people that ask me this question say that they don’t believe in any God.

My response? Why does it matter to you if you don’t believe?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad to be asked, but if people don’t believe in God, why do they believe in Heaven?

I love living my life, and am not in any rush to end it. But I’m not going to fear what comes after death, because I have something to believe in.

My question to you isn’t “Will you go to heaven?”

It’s
“What do you really want to believe in?”

An Invitation

Easter is coming!

It’s the biggest event of the Christian yearly calender and there is no way you should miss it!
What does it involve?

Chocolate, friends, church and the most inspiring story you’ve ever heard in your life!

If you want to know about what Easter is really about, please click on the link below, and find your nearest Jesus Lifehouse!

And even better news…

If you can’t come, you can watch it on-line!

Whatever you do, don’t miss out on the biggest celebration of the year.

What does Easter mean to you?

It’s a New Day

It’s a New Life!

These are the opening words to one of my favourite songs.

I have been unable to post for a little while (sorry about that) but now I am back up and running!

Ok, the big news…

I moved to Sendai!

It’s a beautiful city with a wonderful heart. The people here are great, and I want to explore the whole town!

So the topic today?

Seize the Day

There are so many opportunities that come our way. It’s hard to just really figure out what to do. Do we turn left, right, go straight, make a U-turn… one thing is for sure, without making any decisions, we are just parked (Or, if like me you can’t drive, then standing still).

When someone gives you an opportunity, make a decision! whether it’s yes or no, make it not just a choice but a direction that you want to go in.
It could be a job opportunity, a date or just an invitation to a party, but think about where this decision will take you.

Do you want this type of job? will it take you to the career you truly want?
Do you like this person? Do you see yourself getting any further than just dating?
Is this party with people you like? Will it be a great opportunity to meet like-minded people?
If the answer to any of these questions is “No“, then of course the choice is obvious.
But when the answer is “Yes“, then don’t be afraid to grab hold of the opportunity and follow it to wherever it takes you.

What choices will you make today? Where will they take you?

What are you talking about?

Conversation is crucial to a good relationship (of any kind).

It doesn’t have to be sparkling, witty or intelligent (though this helps).

However it does have to be honest, communicative and equal!

I’ve never heard a girl say to me,
“I had this great conversation with a guy, he talked all about himself, then he was silent and didn’t talk to me, and what he did say, he lied about! That was fantastic!”
What I have heard on occasion is:
“I had this great conversation with a guy, he really listened to me, and opened up about himself. I felt we really got to know each other.”

This works in any situation, a guy, a girl, a friend, a colleague or even a stranger.

What are you really trying to say?

Perfect Vision

What is your vision type?

There are 3 types of “vision” that I’m aware of.

A personal vision.

This is where you have a goal for yourself. It will help you, make you better skilled, and it’s something you love. And it’s all for you alone.

Others oriented vision.

This is something you want to do for someone else. Either you decided to do it for them, or they requested it of you. It has very little to do with personal vision.


A bigger picture vision.

This is a vision that incorporates your talents, gifts and a love of other people. It is one in which you seek to change yourself for the better, help others and make a difference in the world.
None of the three types of vision are bad, but which one are you aiming for?

What’s your vision?

The Right Balance

I grew up in an amazing family, and no matter what mistakes I made, they loved me. They also loved me enough to tell me off!

A good balance is essential to a good upbringing. Discipline corrects you when you are wrong and love constantly surrounds you.

My surrogate sister here in Japan, She always tells me when I need to change my attitude!

It’s not only the same for raising children, but for any good relationship.
With friends, colleagues, your partner or anyone with whom you have regular contact, we need to be strong enough to tell each other what we feel and what is right, whether it’s “I love you”, “I want to hang out”, “What are you doing after work?” or ( at the other end) “Please don’t gossip”,  “Take it easy”, or “You didn’t send that fax yesterday”.

What attitude do you have?

Is it an attitude of thinking of other people?

Or one of thinking of how you want them to be for your own sake?

This book on having a great attitude is available to buy, click on this link!

Confidence

Why is it so easy to focus on what we can’t do, instead of focusing on what we can.

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I’ve recently realized that in things that I have confidence in, there is no question, worry or doubt. But the things I don’t have confidence in tend to stop me from taking action.

Recently I’ve been taking action in areas that I used to hold back a lot, and finding that even if there isn’t success, there is reward!

I love red, it’s a great color, but I used to never have the confidence to wear anything but black. Now I’m good with wearing any color of the rainbow! (except yellow or orange, I just don’t like to wear those).

What are you holding back from?