These are the opening words to one of my favourite songs.
I have been unable to post for a little while (sorry about that) but now I am back up and running!
Ok, the big news…
I moved to Sendai!
It’s a beautiful city with a wonderful heart. The people here are great, and I want to explore the whole town!
So the topic today?
Seize the Day
There are so many opportunities that come our way. It’s hard to just really figure out what to do. Do we turn left, right, go straight, make a U-turn… one thing is for sure, without making any decisions, we are just parked (Or, if like me you can’t drive, then standing still).
When someone gives you an opportunity, make a decision! whether it’s yes or no, make it not just a choice but a direction that you want to go in.
It could be a job opportunity, a date or just an invitation to a party, but think about where this decision will take you.
Do you want this type of job? will it take you to the career you truly want?
Do you like this person? Do you see yourself getting any further than just dating?
Is this party with people you like? Will it be a great opportunity to meet like-minded people?
If the answer to any of these questions is “No“, then of course the choice is obvious.
But when the answer is “Yes“, then don’t be afraid to grab hold of the opportunity and follow it to wherever it takes you.
What choices will you make today? Where will they take you?
I grew up in an amazing family, and no matter what mistakes I made, they loved me. They also loved me enough to tell me off!
A good balance is essential to a good upbringing. Discipline corrects you when you are wrong and love constantly surrounds you.
My surrogate sister here in Japan, She always tells me when I need to change my attitude!
It’s not only the same for raising children, but for any good relationship.
With friends, colleagues, your partner or anyone with whom you have regular contact, we need to be strong enough to tell each other what we feel and what is right, whether it’s “I love you”, “I want to hang out”, “What are you doing after work?” or ( at the other end) “Please don’t gossip”, “Take it easy”, or “You didn’t send that fax yesterday”.
What attitude do you have?
Is it an attitude of thinking of other people?
Or one of thinking of how you want them to be for your own sake?
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Why is it so easy to sit back and do nothing when what we should be doing is obvious.
Everyone has something they want to do in their lives, whether for an immediate goal or for a long-term future plan. But not everyone is taking the action that they need to in order to achieve that goal.
Your goal may be to get your dream job, to find a partner, to have children, to do more with your life, or even something more general like get into a routine at home.
Whatever you want to do, sitting at home on the sofa is not going to help you achieve it. Unless your goal is to gain weight while vegetating, in which case I’ll say congratualtions. As for the rest of us, we need to get ourselves into gear.
You want a job? Get ready for it by getting educated, or reading up on it, or volunteering in an area related to it. Employers like people who are pro-active.
If you want a partner, well then you need to start talking to members of the opposite sex, or spending more time with the person you like. Sitting back and watching from afar only means waiting for another persons love story to unfold in front of your eyes.
If you want children, then spend some time with kids, get ready for when you do become a parent.
The idea isn’t to do some big drastic gesture, it’s just to take one small step off the starting block, followed by another, and hopefully another.
Why is it so easy to focus on what we can’t do, instead of focusing on what we can.
growing more confident everyday
I’ve recently realized that in things that I have confidence in, there is no question, worry or doubt. But the things I don’t have confidence in tend to stop me from taking action.
Recently I’ve been taking action in areas that I used to hold back a lot, and finding that even if there isn’t success, there is reward!
I love red, it’s a great color, but I used to never have the confidence to wear anything but black. Now I’m good with wearing any color of the rainbow! (except yellow or orange, I just don’t like to wear those).
It’s the same for things you don’t like! I sometime get way to set in my ways, but I’ve been helped to realize many times recently that I shouldn’t be so hung up!
Vinegar. Once I realized that the taste made me feel sick, I just avoided all dressings, sauces and anything that might possibly have vinegar. Recently I had a great salad with Thai dressing, it had a lot of vinegar in it but after trying it, I loved it. I decided to try things with vinegar in from then on.
Coffee. This week I tried coffee twice. The first time was very strong black Italian coffee, I didn’t hate it as I usually do, but it was way too strong and bitter for me. And tonight I tried vanilla caffè latte (I think). And I loved it! Even my mum and sister were surprised after I posted on Facebook and Twitter about it.
Church. My whole life I was prejudiced against it.
Thinking it was boring and quiet and only strange people who shout at you in the street go there. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I found Jesus Lifehouse so surprisingly active, loud and full of bright people who actually listened to what I had to say. I was so overwhelmed that I’d decided never to go back. Eventually I did, my prejudice was overcome, and now I love going!
So what are you being too stubborn to try again? Relationships? Church? Coffee?
Sometimes change is difficult and comes with a price.
(literally, I mean have you ever moved house?!)
But without change there is no growth of mind or spirit.
Jobs for example. When you get a job there’s a lot to learn and you grow quickly, but what if you are only doing the same thing everyday with no change whatsoever? Pretty soon you will know all you need to know about that job and just have repetitive days where nothing changes.
What’s the result then?
You don’t learn anything new.
You don’t meet anyone new.
You lose enthusiasm for what you are doing.
Just doing something a little different can make a big difference
I am NOT suggesting that everyone out there go and quit their job. That should never be your first choice. What I am suggesting is that you find a way to challenge yourself. Make a change in how you approach your work, try something new, make opportunities to help your company. Do anything but sit there and be stagnant.
If I was staying in Tokyo, I’d be looking to shake up my routine, and get out of my current thinking. I’d look for ways to improve my classes, and become more efficient. I love my job and wish I could take it with me to Sendai.
The real truth, the one that can never be disputed, is something that never changes. Facts as we know them might change, but the truth has always been there, whether we recognise it or not.
the most famous example of this is the shape of the earth. People used to say that the earth was flat, and that you could fall off the edge. This was a scientific “fact” for many years, but then (with the help of Christopher Columbus) the western world realised the world was in fact, round. The truth never changed, we just discovered it.
Everyday we have opportunities to choose the truth, or hide behind lies. We can be who we truly are or deny it.
I choose to be true to who I am and what I believe every day. I don’t ask anyone else to pretend in front of me, but to be honest and true. Sometimes it’s hard to be who you really are, especially if you find yourself in an environment that makes you feel that you could never be totaly honest.
Of course there is a difference between honesty and tact, there is no way I’d encourage anyone to walk up to someone and say “By the way, you look great but you smell like a fish” or “Please tell me the name of your hairdresser so that I can be sure never to go there”. That would be stupid, untactful, and in some cases, suicidal.
What I’m talking about is the core of your soul. Who you really are, why you are who you are, and what you want to be.
Never deny that.
Do you want the countable lies or the uncountable truth?