It’s a New Life!
These are the opening words to one of my favourite songs.
I have been unable to post for a little while (sorry about that) but now I am back up and running!
Ok, the big news…
I moved to Sendai!
It’s a beautiful city with a wonderful heart. The people here are great, and I want to explore the whole town!
So the topic today?
Seize the Day
There are so many opportunities that come our way. It’s hard to just really figure out what to do. Do we turn left, right, go straight, make a U-turn… one thing is for sure, without making any decisions, we are just parked (Or, if like me you can’t drive, then standing still).
When someone gives you an opportunity, make a decision! whether it’s yes or no, make it not just a choice but a direction that you want to go in.
It could be a job opportunity, a date or just an invitation to a party, but think about where this decision will take you.
Do you want this type of job? will it take you to the career you truly want?
Do you like this person? Do you see yourself getting any further than just dating?
Is this party with people you like? Will it be a great opportunity to meet like-minded people?
If the answer to any of these questions is “No“, then of course the choice is obvious.
But when the answer is “Yes“, then don’t be afraid to grab hold of the opportunity and follow it to wherever it takes you.
What choices will you make today? Where will they take you?
Conversation is crucial to a good relationship (of any kind).
It doesn’t have to be sparkling, witty or intelligent (though this helps).
However it does have to be honest, communicative and equal!
I’ve never heard a girl say to me,
“I had this great conversation with a guy, he talked all about himself, then he was silent and didn’t talk to me, and what he did say, he lied about! That was fantastic!”
What I have heard on occasion is:
“I had this great conversation with a guy, he really listened to me, and opened up about himself. I felt we really got to know each other.”
This works in any situation, a guy, a girl, a friend, a colleague or even a stranger.
What are you really trying to say?
What is your vision type?
There are 3 types of “vision” that I’m aware of.
A personal vision.
This is where you have a goal for yourself. It will help you, make you better skilled, and it’s something you love. And it’s all for you alone.
Others oriented vision.
This is something you want to do for someone else. Either you decided to do it for them, or they requested it of you. It has very little to do with personal vision.
This is a vision that incorporates your talents, gifts and a love of other people. It is one in which you seek to change yourself for the better, help others and make a difference in the world.
None of the three types of vision are bad, but which one are you aiming for?
What’s your vision?
I grew up in an amazing family, and no matter what mistakes I made, they loved me. They also loved me enough to tell me off!
A good balance is essential to a good upbringing. Discipline corrects you when you are wrong and love constantly surrounds you.
It’s not only the same for raising children, but for any good relationship.
With friends, colleagues, your partner or anyone with whom you have regular contact, we need to be strong enough to tell each other what we feel and what is right, whether it’s “I love you”, “I want to hang out”, “What are you doing after work?” or ( at the other end) “Please don’t gossip”, “Take it easy”, or “You didn’t send that fax yesterday”.
What attitude do you have?
Is it an attitude of thinking of other people?
Or one of thinking of how you want them to be for your own sake?
Why is it so easy to sit back and do nothing when what we should be doing is obvious.
Everyone has something they want to do in their lives, whether for an immediate goal or for a long-term future plan. But not everyone is taking the action that they need to in order to achieve that goal.
Your goal may be to get your dream job, to find a partner, to have children, to do more with your life, or even something more general like get into a routine at home.
Whatever you want to do, sitting at home on the sofa is not going to help you achieve it. Unless your goal is to gain weight while vegetating, in which case I’ll say congratualtions. As for the rest of us, we need to get ourselves into gear.
You want a job? Get ready for it by getting educated, or reading up on it, or volunteering in an area related to it. Employers like people who are pro-active.
If you want a partner, well then you need to start talking to members of the opposite sex, or spending more time with the person you like. Sitting back and watching from afar only means waiting for another persons love story to unfold in front of your eyes.
If you want children, then spend some time with kids, get ready for when you do become a parent.
The idea isn’t to do some big drastic gesture, it’s just to take one small step off the starting block, followed by another, and hopefully another.
What action do you need to take next?
Take care of yourself!
No matter what you do, who you are and why you are there, we all have an obligation to take care of ourselves. Not for our partner (or prospective partner) not for work or family, but for ourselves.
I definitely feel better if I’ve put a little effort into myself.
For some, this may mean wearing make-up, or nice clothes, for others it could be going to the gym or eating healthily. Whatever this means to you, everything leads to one thing; to do the best with what we’ve got is what we should aim for.
I am a five foot tall (153cm), hazel-eyed brunette. There is no use in me trying to be a tall, blonde-haired, blue-eyed girl. I want to be the best petite hazel-eyed girl with brown hair that I can be!
Who do you want to be?
What do you do everyday to take care of yourself?
Why is it so easy to focus on what we can’t do, instead of focusing on what we can.
I’ve recently realized that in things that I have confidence in, there is no question, worry or doubt. But the things I don’t have confidence in tend to stop me from taking action.
Recently I’ve been taking action in areas that I used to hold back a lot, and finding that even if there isn’t success, there is reward!
I love red, it’s a great color, but I used to never have the confidence to wear anything but black. Now I’m good with wearing any color of the rainbow! (except yellow or orange, I just don’t like to wear those).
What are you holding back from?
If at first you don’t succeed… try, try again!
It’s the same for things you don’t like! I sometime get way to set in my ways, but I’ve been helped to realize many times recently that I shouldn’t be so hung up!
Vinegar. Once I realized that the taste made me feel sick, I just avoided all dressings, sauces and anything that might possibly have vinegar. Recently I had a great salad with Thai dressing, it had a lot of vinegar in it but after trying it, I loved it. I decided to try things with vinegar in from then on.
Coffee. This week I tried coffee twice. The first time was very strong black Italian coffee, I didn’t hate it as I usually do, but it was way too strong and bitter for me. And tonight I tried vanilla caffè latte (I think). And I loved it! Even my mum and sister were surprised after I posted on Facebook and Twitter about it.
Church. My whole life I was prejudiced against it.
Thinking it was boring and quiet and only strange people who shout at you in the street go there. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I found Jesus Lifehouse so surprisingly active, loud and full of bright people who actually listened to what I had to say. I was so overwhelmed that I’d decided never to go back. Eventually I did, my prejudice was overcome, and now I love going!