So many people have high expectations of others.
Parents expect their children to go to university, children expect their parents to be able to solve any problem, and patients expect their doctor to cure them.
These aren’t bad expectations. We should always hope the best for our children, trust in our parents and expect our doctors to try their best.
But how far should we go?
Some women expect their future partner to come riding in on a white horse, some parents expect their children to get perfect in every test and become high level executives, and some people expect others to be infallible.
Is putting that pressure on other people really a good thing?
Most children will lie to their parents at some stage in their life, and a lot of people will try to make themselves sound more important than they actually are. The reason? There is this emotional need to have people approve of them.
What are your expectations of others? Are they high enough to challenge them or so high that they are unattainable?
I am not a shy person.
I’ll be the first to go up to people I don’t know and introduce myself. I’m happy to be the first on a dance floor, I’m happy being on stage and I love it when I have to stand up and give a speech.
But being confident in public is natural to me.
But I know that it’s hard to be bold. Because bold for me is different. It’s being confident in doing things that will affect my private life.
Knowing that I’m a Christian, many people are curious to know, will they go to Heaven?
My response? Why does it matter to you if you don’t believe?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad to be asked, but if people don’t believe in God, why do they believe in Heaven?
I love living my life, and am not in any rush to end it. But I’m not going to fear what comes after death, because I have something to believe in.
My question to you isn’t “Will you go to heaven?”
“What do you really want to believe in?”
Easter is coming!
It’s the biggest event of the Christian yearly calender and there is no way you should miss it!
What does it involve?
Chocolate, friends, church and the most inspiring story you’ve ever heard in your life!
If you want to know about what Easter is really about, please click on the link below, and find your nearest Jesus Lifehouse!
And even better news…
Whatever you do, don’t miss out on the biggest celebration of the year.
What does Easter mean to you?
Conversation is crucial to a good relationship (of any kind).
It doesn’t have to be sparkling, witty or intelligent (though this helps).
However it does have to be honest, communicative and equal!
I’ve never heard a girl say to me,
“I had this great conversation with a guy, he talked all about himself, then he was silent and didn’t talk to me, and what he did say, he lied about! That was fantastic!”
What I have heard on occasion is:
“I had this great conversation with a guy, he really listened to me, and opened up about himself. I felt we really got to know each other.”
This works in any situation, a guy, a girl, a friend, a colleague or even a stranger.
What are you really trying to say?
What is your vision type?
There are 3 types of “vision” that I’m aware of.
A personal vision.
This is where you have a goal for yourself. It will help you, make you better skilled, and it’s something you love. And it’s all for you alone.
Others oriented vision.
This is something you want to do for someone else. Either you decided to do it for them, or they requested it of you. It has very little to do with personal vision.
This is a vision that incorporates your talents, gifts and a love of other people. It is one in which you seek to change yourself for the better, help others and make a difference in the world.
None of the three types of vision are bad, but which one are you aiming for?
What’s your vision?
Why is it so easy to sit back and do nothing when what we should be doing is obvious.
Everyone has something they want to do in their lives, whether for an immediate goal or for a long-term future plan. But not everyone is taking the action that they need to in order to achieve that goal.
Your goal may be to get your dream job, to find a partner, to have children, to do more with your life, or even something more general like get into a routine at home.
Whatever you want to do, sitting at home on the sofa is not going to help you achieve it. Unless your goal is to gain weight while vegetating, in which case I’ll say congratualtions. As for the rest of us, we need to get ourselves into gear.
You want a job? Get ready for it by getting educated, or reading up on it, or volunteering in an area related to it. Employers like people who are pro-active.
If you want a partner, well then you need to start talking to members of the opposite sex, or spending more time with the person you like. Sitting back and watching from afar only means waiting for another persons love story to unfold in front of your eyes.
If you want children, then spend some time with kids, get ready for when you do become a parent.
The idea isn’t to do some big drastic gesture, it’s just to take one small step off the starting block, followed by another, and hopefully another.
What action do you need to take next?
Take care of yourself!
No matter what you do, who you are and why you are there, we all have an obligation to take care of ourselves. Not for our partner (or prospective partner) not for work or family, but for ourselves.
I definitely feel better if I’ve put a little effort into myself.
For some, this may mean wearing make-up, or nice clothes, for others it could be going to the gym or eating healthily. Whatever this means to you, everything leads to one thing; to do the best with what we’ve got is what we should aim for.
I am a five foot tall (153cm), hazel-eyed brunette. There is no use in me trying to be a tall, blonde-haired, blue-eyed girl. I want to be the best petite hazel-eyed girl with brown hair that I can be!
Who do you want to be?
What do you do everyday to take care of yourself?
If at first you don’t succeed… try, try again!
It’s the same for things you don’t like! I sometime get way to set in my ways, but I’ve been helped to realize many times recently that I shouldn’t be so hung up!
Vinegar. Once I realized that the taste made me feel sick, I just avoided all dressings, sauces and anything that might possibly have vinegar. Recently I had a great salad with Thai dressing, it had a lot of vinegar in it but after trying it, I loved it. I decided to try things with vinegar in from then on.
Coffee. This week I tried coffee twice. The first time was very strong black Italian coffee, I didn’t hate it as I usually do, but it was way too strong and bitter for me. And tonight I tried vanilla caffè latte (I think). And I loved it! Even my mum and sister were surprised after I posted on Facebook and Twitter about it.
Church. My whole life I was prejudiced against it.
Thinking it was boring and quiet and only strange people who shout at you in the street go there. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I found Jesus Lifehouse so surprisingly active, loud and full of bright people who actually listened to what I had to say. I was so overwhelmed that I’d decided never to go back. Eventually I did, my prejudice was overcome, and now I love going!