Why is it so easy to focus on what we can’t do, instead of focusing on what we can.
growing more confident everyday
I’ve recently realized that in things that I have confidence in, there is no question, worry or doubt. But the things I don’t have confidence in tend to stop me from taking action.
Recently I’ve been taking action in areas that I used to hold back a lot, and finding that even if there isn’t success, there is reward!
I love red, it’s a great color, but I used to never have the confidence to wear anything but black. Now I’m good with wearing any color of the rainbow! (except yellow or orange, I just don’t like to wear those).
It’s the same for things you don’t like! I sometime get way to set in my ways, but I’ve been helped to realize many times recently that I shouldn’t be so hung up!
Vinegar. Once I realized that the taste made me feel sick, I just avoided all dressings, sauces and anything that might possibly have vinegar. Recently I had a great salad with Thai dressing, it had a lot of vinegar in it but after trying it, I loved it. I decided to try things with vinegar in from then on.
Coffee. This week I tried coffee twice. The first time was very strong black Italian coffee, I didn’t hate it as I usually do, but it was way too strong and bitter for me. And tonight I tried vanilla caffè latte (I think). And I loved it! Even my mum and sister were surprised after I posted on Facebook and Twitter about it.
Church. My whole life I was prejudiced against it.
Thinking it was boring and quiet and only strange people who shout at you in the street go there. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I found Jesus Lifehouse so surprisingly active, loud and full of bright people who actually listened to what I had to say. I was so overwhelmed that I’d decided never to go back. Eventually I did, my prejudice was overcome, and now I love going!
So what are you being too stubborn to try again? Relationships? Church? Coffee?
I’ve been watching a Korean Drama called “Full House”
The storyline is the type to get me hooked, and there are a lot of funny moments but there is something I want to say to the characters.
“Get real, Step up”
Half the problems in Dramas can be solved so easily.
Here are some great tips for drama characters.
When you feel bad, don’t go out and get drunk, you might end up married to a stranger
Make an effort in the relationship you are in, don’t let it get stale.
Date/marry someone you actually like
don’t insult the person you love. It creates misunderstandings.
I think that there is something good in dramas though.
In every good drama I’ve seen the happy ending comes because the main character/s have seen what they did wrong and truly want to change. It’s only once we’ve gained insight and taken action ourselves that we can really make a difference in our lives.
For people in Dramas I think this comes too late. (although if all the characters were following my tips it would make for some very short dramas, Boy and girl meet, they like each other, are nice to each other, the guy asks the girl out, they fall in love and get married and live a wonderful life, the end)
Honestly, I want the real (and short, less melodramatic) thing.
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I don’t want to be a character in a fairytale, drama or movie. I want to live a happy, real life.
I want to go to Jesus Lifehouse Sendai, live a great life, and meet a great guy (not necessarily in that order).
Sometimes change is difficult and comes with a price.
(literally, I mean have you ever moved house?!)
But without change there is no growth of mind or spirit.
Jobs for example. When you get a job there’s a lot to learn and you grow quickly, but what if you are only doing the same thing everyday with no change whatsoever? Pretty soon you will know all you need to know about that job and just have repetitive days where nothing changes.
What’s the result then?
You don’t learn anything new.
You don’t meet anyone new.
You lose enthusiasm for what you are doing.
Just doing something a little different can make a big difference
I am NOT suggesting that everyone out there go and quit their job. That should never be your first choice. What I am suggesting is that you find a way to challenge yourself. Make a change in how you approach your work, try something new, make opportunities to help your company. Do anything but sit there and be stagnant.
If I was staying in Tokyo, I’d be looking to shake up my routine, and get out of my current thinking. I’d look for ways to improve my classes, and become more efficient. I love my job and wish I could take it with me to Sendai.
I’m really thankfull for the three friends who’ve blessed me by letting me stay in their house tonight, and for my company who are providing a place for me to stay in while training.
I met some amazing people at street-band, and look forward to our growing friendship!
I can’t wait to go to JLH tomorrow. It’s going to be epic!
I’m really having a hard time being patient and looking for a place here to live, I just feel that I want to find a place soon! but still, I want to find a place that is right for my needs and I can use as an open house.
Still, patience is a virtue, and I’m hoping for the right place to come along.
What’s the best thing that happened to you this week?
In every experience that you go through, there is the potential to learn something new and gain something.
Whether it’s a good or bad experience, you can learn a lot about yourself and grow at the same time.
There was this girl called Esther, who got married to a king (please bear in mind that this was a long time ago) and he loved her very much, but he didn’t know about her background. A really important politician later ruled that all people of Esther’s religion should be killed. Now Esther would have been safe if she didn’t say anything, but her cousin reminded her that all the people she loved would die, and that she would never really be safe. She became strong and told the king about herself, and he stopped the politician from carrying out his plans.
This was not a happy experience for Esther, and it was challenging for her, but she told the truth and was accepted for who she was. She learned that being honest in the face of losing everything was actually what saved not only her, but thousands of others.
There may be some perfect days in this world, but we know that we will always face some kind of challenge every day.
Yet every challenge will bring a new reward – Whether it’s experience, something physical (like a bonus) or just something that you’ve learned, it’s a reward.
No matter the outcome, you are a changed person, and if you go through every day with the right attitude, you will come out stronger.
This is what I looked like most of the time about 3 1/2 years ago
Taken a few months ago, a complete change of heart
What experiences have you had today? What did you learn?