The Right Balance

I grew up in an amazing family, and no matter what mistakes I made, they loved me. They also loved me enough to tell me off!

A good balance is essential to a good upbringing. Discipline corrects you when you are wrong and love constantly surrounds you.

My surrogate sister here in Japan, She always tells me when I need to change my attitude!

It’s not only the same for raising children, but for any good relationship.
With friends, colleagues, your partner or anyone with whom you have regular contact, we need to be strong enough to tell each other what we feel and what is right, whether it’s “I love you”, “I want to hang out”, “What are you doing after work?” or ( at the other end) “Please don’t gossip”,  “Take it easy”, or “You didn’t send that fax yesterday”.

What attitude do you have?

Is it an attitude of thinking of other people?

Or one of thinking of how you want them to be for your own sake?

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Lights… Camera… Action!

Why is it so easy to sit back and do nothing when what we should be doing is obvious.

Everyone has something they want to do in their lives, whether for an immediate goal or for a long-term future plan. But not everyone is taking the action that they need to in order to achieve that goal.

Your goal may be to get your dream job, to find a partner, to have children, to do more with your life, or even something more general like get into a routine at home.
Whatever you want to do, sitting at home on the sofa is not going to help you achieve it. Unless your goal is to gain weight while vegetating, in which case I’ll say congratualtions. As for the rest of us, we need to get ourselves into gear.

You want a job? Get ready for it by getting educated, or reading up on it, or volunteering in an area related to it. Employers like people who are pro-active.
If you want a partner, well then you need to start talking to members of the opposite sex, or spending more time with the person you like. Sitting back and watching from afar only means waiting for another persons love story to unfold in front of your eyes.

If you want children, then spend some time with kids, get ready for when you do become a parent.
The idea isn’t to do some big drastic gesture, it’s just to take one small step off the starting block, followed by another, and hopefully another.

What action do you need to take next?

Confidence

Why is it so easy to focus on what we can’t do, instead of focusing on what we can.

growing more confident everyday

I’ve recently realized that in things that I have confidence in, there is no question, worry or doubt. But the things I don’t have confidence in tend to stop me from taking action.

Recently I’ve been taking action in areas that I used to hold back a lot, and finding that even if there isn’t success, there is reward!

I love red, it’s a great color, but I used to never have the confidence to wear anything but black. Now I’m good with wearing any color of the rainbow! (except yellow or orange, I just don’t like to wear those).

What are you holding back from?

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Get real, Step up

I’ve been watching a Korean Drama called “Full House”

The storyline is the type to get me hooked, and there are a lot of funny moments but there is something I want to say to the characters.

“Get real, Step up”

Half the problems in Dramas can be solved so easily.

Here are some great tips for drama characters.

  1. When you feel bad, don’t go out and get drunk, you might end up married to a stranger
  2. Make an effort in the relationship you are in, don’t let it get stale. 
  3. Date/marry someone you actually like
  4. don’t insult the person you love. It creates misunderstandings.
I think that there is something good in dramas though.

In every good drama I’ve seen the happy ending comes because the main character/s have seen what they did wrong and truly want to change. It’s only once we’ve gained insight and taken action ourselves that we can really make a difference in our lives.

For people in Dramas I think this comes too late. (although if all the characters were following my tips it would make for some very short dramas, Boy and girl meet, they like each other, are nice to each other, the guy asks the girl out, they fall in love and get married and live a wonderful life, the end)

Honestly, I want the real (and short, less melodramatic) thing.

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I don’t want to be a character in a fairytale, drama or movie. I want to live a happy, real life.

I want to go to Jesus Lifehouse Sendai, live a great life, and meet a great guy (not necessarily in that order).

What type of person are you dreaming of being.

I forgot my change!

Sometimes change is difficult and comes with a price.

(literally, I mean have you ever moved house?!)

But without change there is no growth of mind or spirit.

Jobs for example. When you get a job there’s a lot to learn and you grow quickly, but what if you are only doing the same thing everyday with no change whatsoever? Pretty soon you will know all you need to know about that job and  just have repetitive days where nothing changes.
What’s the result then?
You don’t learn anything new.
You don’t meet anyone new.
You lose enthusiasm for what you are doing.
Blowing bubbles at Saitama super arena

Just doing something a little different can make a big difference

The answer?

Change!

I am NOT suggesting that everyone out there go and quit their job. That should never be your first choice. What I am suggesting is that you find a way to challenge yourself. Make a change in how you approach your work, try something new, make opportunities to help your company. Do anything but sit there and be stagnant.
 If I was staying in Tokyo, I’d be looking to shake up my routine, and get out of my current thinking. I’d look for ways to improve my classes, and become more efficient. I love my job and wish I could take it with me to Sendai.
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Blessing, Upon Blessing, Upon…

Blessing

Jesus Lifehouse was, as usual, energetic, fun and relevant, with great music and a simple, easy to understand message. Just in a different location, Sendai.

Wonderful people had a great time getting to know each other, find out more about each other, hang out and talk about the things that really matter, as well as the things we just love.
I had a most amazing day at Jesus Lifehouse Sendai, meeting new people, seeing a record number of people so far (29) and 6 people put their hands up to respond to Jesus.

I was thinking that the day couldn’t get any better.
Then I found that there were more great surprises in store for me.

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All good things…

I’m in Sendai today!!!

I’m really thankfull for the three friends who’ve blessed me by letting me stay in their house tonight, and for my company who are providing a place for me to stay in while training.

I met some amazing people at street-band, and look forward to our growing friendship!
I can’t wait to go to JLH tomorrow. It’s going to be epic!
I’m really having a hard time being patient and looking for a place here to live, I just feel that I want to find a place soon! but still, I want to find a place that is right for my needs and I can use as an open house.
Still, patience is a virtue, and I’m hoping for the right place to come along.

What’s the best thing that happened to you this week?

De-Clutterfying

In preparing to move to sendai I need to take on the very daunting task of throwing out stuff.

Actually this is a lot harder than it looks, because I’m a bit of a hoarder.

Definition;
Hoarder - a person who accumulates things and hides them away for future use
I’m not pathological and I do have times of just having clear outs, but it does build up over time.
It’s a good thing I move around so much otherwise packing this time wouldn’t just be a challenge, it’d be a nightmare to compare with turning up at the wrong company on the first day of work. (Yeah, I had that one)
But here’s the thing; Now I have a much greater purpose than keeping all these unnecessary things. I’m moving to Sendai to help Jesus Lifehouse there.  My old clutter, which will only be in the way, needs to go.

Completely.

It was the same thing when I first started going to Jesus Lifehouse in Tokyo, I had a lot of emotional clutter, and I needed a clear out. Just like I’m assessing my stuff now as to what to keep and what to throw/give away, I had to throw out my anxiety, my hurt, and my inability to let people get close.

Me, before I could open up (figuratively, not literally, it's a metaphor thing)

Now, I am happier, I can more easily get over hurt, and I love my close friends so much that I tell them that every time I see that.

Whatever happens in your life, are you taking the time to make sure that you aren’t dragging unnecessary rubbish with you?

Under the apple tree…

“Give… Why?!”

People are always saying that “hard word bears good fruit”, and “give and you’ll receive, just like planting seeds, you bear fruit in time”

I wanted to see just how much a person could get from planting just one seed. So I looked at apples. In one apple there aren’t that many seeds, so that’s easy right? Wrong.

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