I am who I am

What am I?

I am loved

I am blessed

I am beautifully and wonderfully made

I have a great life ahead of me


There is nothing in this world that I can’t cope with


I am free

So are you.


So you can be, too.

Do you know that you are loved unconditionally?

 

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Fortune’s Favour.

I’ve found that I really have Fortune on my side.

I have a house, a job, great friends, and a wonderful church.

 

Why do I have so much? I think part of it is that I don’t see fortune as money I can get for myself. I see fortune as time, people and resources that I can use to help others.
I think that having savings is a good idea. but should it be at the expense of our beliefs?

If you have something you truly believe in, try giving to it.

Reasons I often hear and used to use myself…
I can’t spare the money (and by the way have you seen my new DVD?)
I haven’t got the time (oh yeah, did you see that tv show? I never miss it!)
I can’t find the right charity/church/organisation (but I’m not really looking anyway)

I found that once I dedicated my time, effort and yes, even my money into a cause, that I have been more fortunate than I could have imagined when I used those same reasons not to give.

I have a great spirit from doing what I know is right, I have more energy from using my time effectively, and I have more money left over than before.

I’ve found that in helping others to be more fortunate, I’ve been blessed with fortune myself.

What can you do to be more fortunate?

Even Greater Expectations

We all have great expectations of others, but what about us?

I always expect the best of myself, so that when I see the results of my work, I can judge myself not on how well I did, but how much I’d tried according to my self-expectations.
For example, I did very well in my teaching course. I studied hard, did all my coursework properly and stuck to the schedule I set myself. At the end it didn’t matter what kind of grades I received, because I knew that I’d done all I could to meet my own personal expectations of myself.

Starting a new Journey

On the other hand, When I was at university, I slacked off in my final year, let myself get behind deadlines, and only put in half the effort. At the end of which, although I received my degree, I felt that I had failed myself.
I know enough not to beat myself up over that, but I have also learned enough from that experience to know that I don’t want to go through life like that. Just barely passing by doing the minimal effort.

Making an effort

What do you expect of yourself?

Are you trying to meet your own expectations?

Great Expectations

So many people have high expectations of others.

Parents expect their children to go to university, children expect their parents to be able to solve any problem, and patients expect their doctor to cure them.

These aren’t bad expectations. We should always hope the best for our children, trust in our parents and expect our doctors to try their best.

But how far should we go?

Some women expect their future partner to come riding in on a white horse, some parents expect their children to get perfect in every test and become high level executives, and some people expect others to be infallible.

Is putting that pressure on other people really a good thing?

Most children will lie to their parents at some stage in their life, and a lot of people will try to make themselves sound more important than they actually are. The reason? There is this emotional need to have people approve of them.

What are your expectations of others? Are they high enough to challenge them or so high that they are unattainable?

What are you talking about?

Conversation is crucial to a good relationship (of any kind).

It doesn’t have to be sparkling, witty or intelligent (though this helps).

However it does have to be honest, communicative and equal!

I’ve never heard a girl say to me,
“I had this great conversation with a guy, he talked all about himself, then he was silent and didn’t talk to me, and what he did say, he lied about! That was fantastic!”
What I have heard on occasion is:
“I had this great conversation with a guy, he really listened to me, and opened up about himself. I felt we really got to know each other.”

This works in any situation, a guy, a girl, a friend, a colleague or even a stranger.

What are you really trying to say?

Perfect Vision

What is your vision type?

There are 3 types of “vision” that I’m aware of.

A personal vision.

This is where you have a goal for yourself. It will help you, make you better skilled, and it’s something you love. And it’s all for you alone.

Others oriented vision.

This is something you want to do for someone else. Either you decided to do it for them, or they requested it of you. It has very little to do with personal vision.


A bigger picture vision.

This is a vision that incorporates your talents, gifts and a love of other people. It is one in which you seek to change yourself for the better, help others and make a difference in the world.
None of the three types of vision are bad, but which one are you aiming for?

What’s your vision?

The Right Balance

I grew up in an amazing family, and no matter what mistakes I made, they loved me. They also loved me enough to tell me off!

A good balance is essential to a good upbringing. Discipline corrects you when you are wrong and love constantly surrounds you.

My surrogate sister here in Japan, She always tells me when I need to change my attitude!

It’s not only the same for raising children, but for any good relationship.
With friends, colleagues, your partner or anyone with whom you have regular contact, we need to be strong enough to tell each other what we feel and what is right, whether it’s “I love you”, “I want to hang out”, “What are you doing after work?” or ( at the other end) “Please don’t gossip”,  “Take it easy”, or “You didn’t send that fax yesterday”.

What attitude do you have?

Is it an attitude of thinking of other people?

Or one of thinking of how you want them to be for your own sake?

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Lights… Camera… Action!

Why is it so easy to sit back and do nothing when what we should be doing is obvious.

Everyone has something they want to do in their lives, whether for an immediate goal or for a long-term future plan. But not everyone is taking the action that they need to in order to achieve that goal.

Your goal may be to get your dream job, to find a partner, to have children, to do more with your life, or even something more general like get into a routine at home.
Whatever you want to do, sitting at home on the sofa is not going to help you achieve it. Unless your goal is to gain weight while vegetating, in which case I’ll say congratualtions. As for the rest of us, we need to get ourselves into gear.

You want a job? Get ready for it by getting educated, or reading up on it, or volunteering in an area related to it. Employers like people who are pro-active.
If you want a partner, well then you need to start talking to members of the opposite sex, or spending more time with the person you like. Sitting back and watching from afar only means waiting for another persons love story to unfold in front of your eyes.

If you want children, then spend some time with kids, get ready for when you do become a parent.
The idea isn’t to do some big drastic gesture, it’s just to take one small step off the starting block, followed by another, and hopefully another.

What action do you need to take next?

Taking Care of Yourself

Take care of yourself!

No matter what you do, who you are and why you are there, we all have an obligation to take care of ourselves. Not for our partner (or prospective partner) not for work or family, but for ourselves.

My friends and I take care of each other, too!

I definitely feel better if I’ve put a little effort into myself.
For some, this may mean wearing make-up, or nice clothes, for others it could be going to the gym or eating healthily. Whatever this means to you, everything leads to one thing; to do the best with what we’ve got is what we should aim for.
I am a five foot tall (153cm), hazel-eyed brunette. There is no use in me trying to be a tall, blonde-haired, blue-eyed girl. I want to be the best petite hazel-eyed girl with brown hair that I can be!

Proud to show who I am

Who do you want to be?

What do you do everyday to take care of yourself?

Confidence

Why is it so easy to focus on what we can’t do, instead of focusing on what we can.

growing more confident everyday

I’ve recently realized that in things that I have confidence in, there is no question, worry or doubt. But the things I don’t have confidence in tend to stop me from taking action.

Recently I’ve been taking action in areas that I used to hold back a lot, and finding that even if there isn’t success, there is reward!

I love red, it’s a great color, but I used to never have the confidence to wear anything but black. Now I’m good with wearing any color of the rainbow! (except yellow or orange, I just don’t like to wear those).

What are you holding back from?