These are the opening words to one of my favourite songs.
I have been unable to post for a little while (sorry about that) but now I am back up and running!
Ok, the big news…
I moved to Sendai!
It’s a beautiful city with a wonderful heart. The people here are great, and I want to explore the whole town!
So the topic today?
Seize the Day
There are so many opportunities that come our way. It’s hard to just really figure out what to do. Do we turn left, right, go straight, make a U-turn… one thing is for sure, without making any decisions, we are just parked (Or, if like me you can’t drive, then standing still).
When someone gives you an opportunity, make a decision! whether it’s yes or no, make it not just a choice but a direction that you want to go in.
It could be a job opportunity, a date or just an invitation to a party, but think about where this decision will take you.
Do you want this type of job? will it take you to the career you truly want?
Do you like this person? Do you see yourself getting any further than just dating?
Is this party with people you like? Will it be a great opportunity to meet like-minded people?
If the answer to any of these questions is “No“, then of course the choice is obvious.
But when the answer is “Yes“, then don’t be afraid to grab hold of the opportunity and follow it to wherever it takes you.
What choices will you make today? Where will they take you?
I grew up in an amazing family, and no matter what mistakes I made, they loved me. They also loved me enough to tell me off!
A good balance is essential to a good upbringing. Discipline corrects you when you are wrong and love constantly surrounds you.
My surrogate sister here in Japan, She always tells me when I need to change my attitude!
It’s not only the same for raising children, but for any good relationship.
With friends, colleagues, your partner or anyone with whom you have regular contact, we need to be strong enough to tell each other what we feel and what is right, whether it’s “I love you”, “I want to hang out”, “What are you doing after work?” or ( at the other end) “Please don’t gossip”, “Take it easy”, or “You didn’t send that fax yesterday”.
What attitude do you have?
Is it an attitude of thinking of other people?
Or one of thinking of how you want them to be for your own sake?
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Why is it so easy to sit back and do nothing when what we should be doing is obvious.
Everyone has something they want to do in their lives, whether for an immediate goal or for a long-term future plan. But not everyone is taking the action that they need to in order to achieve that goal.
Your goal may be to get your dream job, to find a partner, to have children, to do more with your life, or even something more general like get into a routine at home.
Whatever you want to do, sitting at home on the sofa is not going to help you achieve it. Unless your goal is to gain weight while vegetating, in which case I’ll say congratualtions. As for the rest of us, we need to get ourselves into gear.
You want a job? Get ready for it by getting educated, or reading up on it, or volunteering in an area related to it. Employers like people who are pro-active.
If you want a partner, well then you need to start talking to members of the opposite sex, or spending more time with the person you like. Sitting back and watching from afar only means waiting for another persons love story to unfold in front of your eyes.
If you want children, then spend some time with kids, get ready for when you do become a parent.
The idea isn’t to do some big drastic gesture, it’s just to take one small step off the starting block, followed by another, and hopefully another.
It’s the same for things you don’t like! I sometime get way to set in my ways, but I’ve been helped to realize many times recently that I shouldn’t be so hung up!
Vinegar. Once I realized that the taste made me feel sick, I just avoided all dressings, sauces and anything that might possibly have vinegar. Recently I had a great salad with Thai dressing, it had a lot of vinegar in it but after trying it, I loved it. I decided to try things with vinegar in from then on.
Coffee. This week I tried coffee twice. The first time was very strong black Italian coffee, I didn’t hate it as I usually do, but it was way too strong and bitter for me. And tonight I tried vanilla caffè latte (I think). And I loved it! Even my mum and sister were surprised after I posted on Facebook and Twitter about it.
Church. My whole life I was prejudiced against it.
Thinking it was boring and quiet and only strange people who shout at you in the street go there. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I found Jesus Lifehouse so surprisingly active, loud and full of bright people who actually listened to what I had to say. I was so overwhelmed that I’d decided never to go back. Eventually I did, my prejudice was overcome, and now I love going!
So what are you being too stubborn to try again? Relationships? Church? Coffee?
I’ve been watching a Korean Drama called “Full House”
The storyline is the type to get me hooked, and there are a lot of funny moments but there is something I want to say to the characters.
“Get real, Step up”
Half the problems in Dramas can be solved so easily.
Here are some great tips for drama characters.
When you feel bad, don’t go out and get drunk, you might end up married to a stranger
Make an effort in the relationship you are in, don’t let it get stale.
Date/marry someone you actually like
don’t insult the person you love. It creates misunderstandings.
I think that there is something good in dramas though.
In every good drama I’ve seen the happy ending comes because the main character/s have seen what they did wrong and truly want to change. It’s only once we’ve gained insight and taken action ourselves that we can really make a difference in our lives.
For people in Dramas I think this comes too late. (although if all the characters were following my tips it would make for some very short dramas, Boy and girl meet, they like each other, are nice to each other, the guy asks the girl out, they fall in love and get married and live a wonderful life, the end)
Honestly, I want the real (and short, less melodramatic) thing.
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I don’t want to be a character in a fairytale, drama or movie. I want to live a happy, real life.
I want to go to Jesus Lifehouse Sendai, live a great life, and meet a great guy (not necessarily in that order).